The greatest fear reported by those considering plastic surgery is a negative reaction from other people. The way other people view us is extremely important, otherwise no one would be doing this in the first place.
The social stigma attached to cosmetic surgery has existed for decades, and doesn’t show any signs of lessening any time soon. People who are contemplating it must consider this stigma when making their decision and fully commit to deal with the repercussions of it.
Plastic surgery can be either reconstructive after an injury or defect, or cosmetic to improve the patient’s aesthetic appearance. It’s usually the cosmetic form that people choose to judge unfairly. This judgment may come in many different forms – a sideways glance from a stranger, a knowing eyebrow raise from an acquaintance, or even a full out lecture from a close friend or relative. People feel very strongly about this treatment for cosmetic reasons, and they often want to project those feelings on the person who chooses this surgical treatment for themselves.
Sometimes it’s a jealousy issue – the person who doesn’t like it secretly wants to change his own appearance and thinks you’re “cheating.” And other times it’s a moral dilemma: whose place is it to modify our appearances- what right do we have to make such changes to our physical selves?
The opinions of others can certainly take a toll when deciding on taking this treatment. Of course you want to please your loved ones, and you don’t want to engage in behavior that would offend them.
So if your mother says “plastic surgery is for careless narcissists,” you’re naturally inclined to listen to her and opt not to get the operation you want to do.
However, the decision of whether or not to change a part of your body is an intensely personal one and should be made by you alone. Other people can have their say, but you need to retain the personal resolve to do what you know in your heart is right for your body, your self-esteem and your life.
The people who know you and love you are unlikely to disown you over something like plastic reconstructive treatment. At the very least, the dissenters in your life will be miffed that you didn’t take their advice and may be a little cold or disapproving for a while. This type of stigma may be worth the impressive benefits a cosmetic procedure can have on your life. If you think plastic surgery is right for you, don’t let anyone deter you from making a choice that could improve your life.